大家都明白,我们对人际关系、理念、思想体系有着心理依赖。为什么会这样?
其实,我认为问题并不在于依赖心本身,而在于孳生依赖的某种深层因素。如果我们能把该因素揭示出来,那么无论心理依赖,还是奋力挣脱依赖,就都无关紧要了,所有因依赖而衍生的问题都将烟消云散。
那么,深层问题是什么呢?是内心的憎恨、恐惧与孤独吗?你在逃避这些问题,明白吗?只要孤独还未被真正理解、感受、洞悉、化解——随便你怎么措辞——只要孤独感依然在,那么心理依赖就不可避免,就没有心灵自由,就不能发现真实,而发现真实就是宗教真义所在。
——克里希那穆提《生命书:365观心日课》(The Book of Life: Daily Meditations with Krishnamurti)
There Is Some Deeper Factor That Makes Us Depend
We know we depend—on our relationship with people or on some idea or on a system of thought. Why?
… Actually, I do not think dependence is the problem; I think there is some other deeper factor that makes us depend. And if we can unravel that, then both dependence and the struggle for freedom will have very little significance; then all the problems which arise through dependence will wither away.
So, what is the deeper issue? Is it that the mind abhors, fears, the idea of being alone? And does the mind know that state which it avoids? So long as that loneliness is not really understood, felt, penetrated, dissolved—whatever word you may like to use—so long as that sense of loneliness remains, dependence is inevitable, and one can never be free; one can never find out for oneself that which is true, that which is religion.
MARCH 3