为什么我们心存依赖？精神上，我们依赖某种信仰、体系、哲学，向别人讨教行为方式，追寻导师为我们指点人生道路，引导我们获得希望与幸福，所以我们总是追寻精神靠山与安全。那么，心灵能不能从依赖中解脱出来呢？这并不是说，心灵必须努力追逐独立——那只是对精神依赖的反动而已，我们所探讨的，并不是挣脱某种状态后的相对独立和自由。如果能放下这种摆脱依赖的逆反心态，我们就能探索得更深入。
我们接纳精神靠山，认为它是必要的、不可避免的。我们对此从不质疑，从未追问一下：为什么人人都追寻精神依赖？难道不是因为我们内心深处非常渴求安全与恒久吗？当我们深陷困惑时，总渴望别人把我们拉出来。我们总是沉湎于如何逃脱或回避当前状态，就在逃避过程中，一定会制造出某种心理靠山，成为我们的精神威权。如果我们依赖他人来获得内心的安全与幸福，那么这依赖感必滋生无数问题，等待我们去奋力解决，其实问题都出自执着。
但我们从不质疑、也从未探究过心理依赖。也许，如果我们以真正的智慧、全然的觉知，深入探究这一问题，就会发现依赖本身并非症结所在，因为依赖心只是逃避内心深层真相的方式而已。
——克里希那穆提《生命书：365观心日课》（The Book of Life: Daily Meditations with Krishnamurti）
We Never Question the Problem of Dependence
Why do we depend? Psychologically, inwardly, we depend on a belief, on a system, on a philosophy; we ask another for a mode of conduct; we seek teachers who will give us a way of life which will lead us to some hope, some happiness. So we are always, are we not, searching for some kind of dependence, security. Is it possible for the mind ever to free itself from this sense of dependence? Which does not mean that the mind must achieve independence—that is only the reaction to dependence. We are not talking of independence, of freedom from a particular state. If we can inquire without the reaction of seeking freedom from a particular state of dependence, then we can go much more deeply into it….
We accept the necessity for dependence; we say it is inevitable. We have never questioned the whole issue at all, why each one of us seeks some kind of dependence. Is it not that we really, deep down, demand security, permanency? Being in a state of confusion, we want someone to get us out of that confusion. So, we are always concerned with how to escape or avoid the state in which we are. In the process of avoiding that state, we are bound to create some kind of dependence, which becomes our authority. If we depend on another for our security, for our inward well-being, there arise out of that dependence innumerable problems, and then we try to solve those problems—the problems of attachment.
But we never question, we never go into the problem of dependence itself. Perhaps if we can really intelligently, with full awareness, go into this problem, then we may find that dependence is not the issue at all—that it is only a way of escaping from a deeper fact.
MARCH 2
