世上有所谓的施虐狂。你知道这个词是什么意思吗?一位名叫德·萨德侯爵的作家曾写过一本书,描写一位男士喜欢伤害别人,眼睁睁看着对方痛苦不堪,由此诞生了“萨德症”或曰“施虐狂”这个词,意思是从别人的痛苦中取乐。
某些人看到别人受苦时,会有一种奇特的满足感。请观察一下自己,看看你有没有这种感受。也许并不明显,但只要有,就总会表现出来:看到别人摔倒,你涌起大笑的冲动;你盼着那些身居高位的人被拉下台;你批评别人,说别人闲话,根本不过脑子……所有这些都是心灵麻木,企图伤害别人的表现。
一个人可能怀有复仇心而故意伤害别人,也可能因为自己的一句话、一个手势或一个眼神而无意间伤害了他人。这些都包含着伤害他人的冲动,鲜有人能够把这种扭曲的快感彻底根除。
——克里希那穆提《生命书:365观心日课》(The Book of Life: Daily Meditations with Krishnamurti)
Perverted Pleasure
There is such a thing as sadism. Do you know what that word means? An author called the Marquis de Sade once wrote a book about a man who enjoyed hurting people and seeing them suffer. From that comes the word sadism, which means deriving pleasure from the suffering of others.
For certain people there is a peculiar satisfaction in seeing others suffer. Watch yourself and see if you have this feeling. It may not be obvious, but if it is there you will find that it expresses itself in the impulse to laugh when somebody falls. You want those who are high to be pulled down; you criticize, gossip thoughtlessly about others, all of which is an expression of insensitivity, a form of wanting to hurt people.
One may injure another deliberately, with vengeance, or one may do it unconsciously with a word, with a gesture with a look; but in either case the urge is to hurt somebody, and there are very few who radically set aside this perverted form of pleasure.
JULY 17