我们该怎样行事，才不给别人带来烦恼？你想明白这个问题，是吧？恐怕，那样我们就根本做不成事了。
即便你生活在圆满中，你的言行也可能为他人招惹烦恼。但，究竟是探索真相重要，还是不烦恼别人更重要？这问题如此简单，简直不需要回答。为什么你总想尊重他人的感受和观点？你是不是担心自己的感受被伤害，担心自己的观点被改变？如果别人的见解与你不同，你只有质疑并进行激烈触碰，才能发现他们是否正确。如果你发现他们的见解与感受是不真实的，这可能会让对方内心不悦，毕竟人人都敝帚自珍，此时，你该怎么办？难道要迁就对方，向错误妥协，以求不伤害朋友吗？
——克里希那穆提《生命书：365观心日课》（The Book of Life: Daily Meditations with Krishnamurti）
Hurt Feelings
How should we act in order not to trouble others? Is that what you want to know? I am afraid then we should not be acting at all.
If you live completely, your actions may cause trouble; but what is more important: finding out what is true, or not disturbing others? This seems so simple that it hardly needs to be answered. Why do you want to respect other peoples feelings and points of view? Are you afraid of having your own feelings hurt, your point of view being changed? If people have opinions that differ from yours, you can find out if they are true only by questioning them, by coming into active contact with them. And if you find that those opinions and feelings are not true, your discovery may cause disturbance to those who cherish them. Then what should you do? Should you comply with them, or compromise with them in order not to hurt your friends?
JULY 15
