用这十二条认知，把自己的生活过滤一遍，人会少很多烦恼。（谢谢大家关心，好些了再拜会。）
1．没有两个人是一样的
No two persons are the same．
2．一个人不能控制另外一个人
One person cannot change another person．
3．有效果比有道理更重要
Usefulness is more important．
4．只有由感官经验塑造出来的世界，没有绝对的真实世界
The map is not territory．
5．沟通的意义决定于对方的回应
The meaning of communication is the response one gets．
6．重复旧的做法，只会得到旧的结果
Repeating the same behavior will repeat the same result．
7．凡事必有至少三个解决方法
There are at least three solutions to every situation．
8．每一个人都选择给自己最佳利益的行为
Every one chooses the best behavior at the moment．
9．每个人都已经具备使自己成功快乐的资源
Every one already possesses all the resources needed．
10．在任何一个系统里，最灵活的部分便是最能影响大局的部分
In any system, the most flexible person has the control．
11．没有挫败，只有反馈信息
There is no failure, only feedback．
12．动机和情绪总不会错，只是行为没有效果而已
Intentions and emotions are never wrong, only the behavior has not been effective.
