Have you ever heard someone said: My classmate in primary school has already been a CEO but I am still a general specialist in my company. I am so anxious about life. For me, I hear similar complaints for several times.
Nowadays, we live in a world with fast pace of life, exposed to everything on the internet and often make a comparison with others. Usually we focus on people who achieve more than us. And then, when we see ourselves, it is easy that we have unbalanced mood and be unsatisfied with ourselves. We want to change the life and make a progress in a short period. If we can’t, we will feel frustrated that we can’t achieve our goals. Then we look for the reasons. Maybe the method for working is not right, or we do not work hard enough, efficiency is too low or we lack talent.
Overall, we want to narrow the gap between current conditions and our goal as soon as possible. Why people are so impatient?
One reason is because of our nature, we want our desire being fulfilled immediately, no one wants to delay the fulfillment. Another reason is that internet makes our life very transparent, we see others’ lives and easy to make a comparison. Usually unbalanced comparisons generate anxiety. So, how can we get out of this anxiety?
My answer is Being friends with time. Well, maybe you think, I am going to talk about time management. No, in my opinion, Time management does not exact. Time will pass at its own pace and this cannot be changed by anyone’s willing, What We can manage are only ourselves. You may also ask, time makes us older year after year, how to be friends with time?
Being friends with time means that we need to accept the reality that Everyone ‘s outset is different, and some processes cannot be left out. Being friends with time means believing the power of accumulation. And accumulating skills step by step is the quickest way to our goal.
To do this, firstly, we need to accept ourselves. Yes, I have some disadvantages, but I need time to make a progress. I am myself. I cannot be another person immediately.
Secondly, after we know that achieving the goal immediately is not possible, maybe you will ask: if we want to obtain something, how can we achieve it? The answer is to exchange it with your resources. For example, you will apply for a position from your ideal company and you really want to obtain this offer. You may ask yourself, what resources can I offer to them? Professional techniques or excellent communication skills? If you have, there is chance for you to achieve your goal. Even though you do not have any resources to match them, calm down. At least you can devote time and energy to learn the skills they need.
Thirdly, when you want to devote yourself for some new skills, do not be afraid that little of your resources are wasted and you obtain nothing for your dedication. There is a sentence: Efforts may not succeed, but to give up certain failure. We know what we want, but also understand what we have and what we would like to exchange for it. Time, energy, skill, money, networks, and so on. If it can be exchanged directly, it’s good. If it cannot, we can accumulate the resources step by step. If we understand the exchange, we will not suffer from the miserable feeling that we cannot obtain what we want.
Overall, believe the power of time, accept reality, accumulate step by step, we will grow up. Time is the someone’s friend but it’s also the enemy of others. This depends on how you see it and live with it.
