To Love Well, Get Emotionally Recharged
好好去爱,为情绪充电
Jan 18, 2017
“Then, because so many people were coming and going that they did not even have a chance to eat, he said to them, ‘Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest’” (Mark 6:31 NIV).
他就说:“你们来,同我私下到荒野的地方去歇一歇。”这是因为来往的人多,他们连吃饭的时间也没有。(可6:31 和合本修订版)
When your emotional tank is empty, you’re unable to keep on loving people. You just give up! You are overwhelmed and feel inadequate. You tend to get angry with the ones you love the most. You try to avoid people, and you see them as problems. You dream of getting away. David had this problem. He said, “If only I had wings like a dove — I would fly away and find rest” (Psalm 55:6 GW).
当你情绪池空了的时候,你就不能继续爱别人。就会放弃!被压倒并且感到不适。容易向你最爱的人发怒。你试图去逃避,你视一切为烦恼。你想要逃跑。大卫就有这个问题。他说:“但愿我有翅膀像鸽子,我就飞去,得享安息。”(诗篇55:6 和合本修订版)
To keep on loving people, you have to keep your emotional tank full, because when it gets low, it’s going to make a difference in your relationships.
坚持去爱别人,你就需要使你的情绪的蓄水池一直充满,因为当它减少的时候,你与别人的关系就会变得不一样。
The Bible has three suggestions for recharging emotionally:
圣经对于保持情绪有三个建议:
Solitude. You need time alone. Today’s verse tells us Jesus frequently withdrew from crowds when he needed to recharge himself emotionally. In this case there was so much hustle and bustle, Jesus told the disciples to “come apart” for a while (Mark 6:31 KJV). You either come apart or you will come apart. You need times of solitude.
独处。你需要时间独处。今天的经文告诉我们,当耶稣需要为情绪充电时,他经常从人群中退出。这段描述中,四围又挤又吵,耶稣告诉门徒要“分开”一会。你或者分开,或者去分开。你需要时间独处。
Recreation. There are certain things that recreate energy and enthusiasm for life. For you it may be hobbies, a sport, a craft, or games. Experiment, find out what recharges you emotionally, and then make time for it.
重建。有些事情可以为生命重建能量和热情。对你来说可能是一个爱好,一个运动,一个手工制作,或者游戏。找到那些可以重建你情绪的事情,然后腾出时间去做。
One of my favorite verses says, “The Son of Man came, enjoying life” (Matthew 11:19 Phillips). Jesus was the most intensive, ministry-oriented person that ever lived, but he enjoyed life. Whatever your job is when you’re giving out to others, it costs and exhausts. You need play time.
我最喜欢的经文之一是,“人子来了,也吃也喝”(太11:19 和合本修订版)。耶稣是以侍奉为本的人,但是他却享受生活。不管你做什么,当你一直对别人付出时,它使你耗尽精力。你就需要娱乐的时间。
Laughter. “Being cheerful keeps you healthy” (Proverbs 17:22 TEV). Studies prove that when you laugh, it increases the number of T-cells, which raises your immunity level, which produces endorphins in your brain. Humor has beneficial effects!
大笑。“喜乐的心能治好疾病”(箴言17:22 和合本修订版)。研究证明,当你笑的时候,T细胞数量就会增加,那可以增强你的免疫系统,可以在你大脑中生产内腓呔。幽默有会产生有益的影响!
God has given us the gift of laughter, and we need to learn how to laugh. I’ve talked to couples that were in serious conflict in their marriage. They would say, “Someday we’ll look back at this and laugh.” I say, “Why wait? Why not just laugh at it right now?” Laughter is a load lightener, an emotional recharger, and a love rebuilder.
笑是上帝给我们的礼物,我们需要学会如何笑。我曾告诉过那些有严重冲突的夫妻们。他们会说,“有一天我们回过头来看的时候,就会笑。”我说,“为什么要等到那一天呢?为什么不现在就笑呢?”笑是一个减轻负担机器,一个保持情绪机器,也是一个爱的再造机。
Talk It Over
讨论问题
What will have to change about your schedule or routine so that you can consistently experience solitude?
为了能有个固定的独处时间,你的时间表要发生哪些改变?
What kind of recreation gives you more energy? How can you make it a regular part of your life?
哪些重建方式给你带来更多的能量?你如何将这些作为自己生命中的一部分?
In what ways can you model a cheerful lifestyle for your family?
用什么方法,你可以为你的家庭建立一个愉快的生活模式呢?