Habit 1 Be Proactive-Principle of personal vision
1.project
Unaware, we will project our intentions on their behavior and call ourselves objective.
to imagine that someone else is feeling the same emotions as you
搭配project something on/onto somebody
例：You’re projecting your insecurity onto me.
projection：FEELING [uncountable] technical the act of imagining that someone else is feeling the same emotions as you投射(不自觉地把自己的观念施加到他人身上)
此外projection还有预测的意思
We faced the reality of the current circumstance and of future projections.
2.torn
Do you sense that you are torn between doing this mental exercise and evaluating the point to be made out of it?
torn between
If you are torn between two possibilities, you find it very difficult to choose between them. 在两者之间难以作出抉择的
例：Robb is torn between becoming a doctor and a career in athletics...
造句： Sara was torn between stick to the current boring job and quiting the job.
3.proactive
Proactive is part of human natur, and, although the proactive nature may be dormant, they are there.
taking action by causing change and not only reacting to change when it happens
•Companies are going to have to be more proactive about environmental management.公司将不得不对环境管理采取更为积极主动的态度。
•a proactive approach/role积极的态度／作用
4.subordinate
The ability to subordinate an impulse to a value is the essence of the proactive person.
V/ADJ to put someone or something in a less important position搭配subordinate somebody/something to somebody/something
例：Why subordinate your wishes to those of your family?
造句：We should not subordinate family to work.
5.dormant
Proactive is part of human nature, and, although the proactive nature may be dormant, they are there.
not active or not growing at the present time but able to be active later
反义 active 搭配lie/remain dormant
例The seeds remain dormant until the spring./ a huge dormant volcano
造句：Her talent might have lain dormant without his uncle's encouragement.
Thoughts
我们以自己的惯有想法待人判事，并认为自己是客观的。
Unaware, we will project our intentions on their behavior and call ourselves objective.
其实大部分时候只是出于感觉而已。并没有经过多少理性的思考。就像是手碰到滚烫的杯子会急忙收手，只是一种自发的反应而已。那这种自发的反应收到什么影响？Genetic determinism,psychic determinism and enviornmental determinism。
简单说就是先天和后天的双重影响。第一天的笔记里我就提到过，我们的脑子里的固有观念不一定都是对的，所以要多跳出这种自发的反应像局外人一样看看自己的想法。
那怎样才能像书里说的变得proactive？
The ability to subordinate an impulse to a value is the essence of the proactive person.
让理性战胜感性。我们对很多事情的反应都是天生的。比如雨天更容易让人忧郁。而且人们天生更容易记住那些伤害过自己的事情。因为我们的祖先只有记住这些伤害，比如被猛兽袭击，才能更好的躲避危险存活下来。
因此，我们要多主动的引导自己的思维走另外一条路。自发的反应就像是心里一头自由的大象，而我们自己就像是骑象人。骑象人要主动引导大象才能让他按照一定的方向前进。
尽管可能一路荆棘，我们无法改变环境，可是我们能控制自己如何应对环境，是悲伤还是快乐，都由自己决定。
No one can hurt you without your consent.
They cannot take away our self respect if we do not give it to them.
知道了这些道理之后并没有太大用处。
But many of them fail to take the necessary steps, the initiative, to make it happen.
更重要的是要行动起来。李笑来老师最近总是提到一句话：人至践则无敌。所以我们要训练自己心中那头大象，让他有一天能习惯的走上正确的大道。
