昨天和爸爸一起听到一句话：再坏的孩子也比别人好！
今天早上爸爸又专门把这句话微信转给了我。
本来已经快忘记的一句话，却因为爸爸的转发引起了我的深度思考。
“再坏的孩子”是谁判断的呢？人世间，有绝对的好孩子或者坏孩子吗？
曾经的我也是个把自己当成“坏孩子”的人，学生时没有考出好的成绩，工作后没有取得骄人的业绩，妈妈这个角色也做得不合格。。。。。。多年来，我一直特别苛责自己，看自己哪哪都不好。后来，才发现，所有这一切的最根本原因是我不够爱自己！一个连自己都不会爱的人，是没有能力、更没有权利成为“好孩子”的人！
2020年的某一天，有幸读到了查理.卓别林先生写于他70岁生日的一篇文章，第一次读到这篇文章，心中就充盈着满满的感动！这位4岁登台表演，13岁进入好莱坞，前后3次获奥斯卡金像奖，并被英国女王授予爵士荣誉的伟大艺术家，有着教科书一般的不幸童年：父母早年分居、幼时家贫被送入孤儿院学艺，12岁时父亲去世，母亲罹患精神疾病，住进精神病院。长大后的卓别林在事业上虽然大获成功，成为了家喻户晓的喜剧演员，但生活中他却屡屡受挫，后来还曾深受抑郁症的折磨。
许是年轻时经历了太多的起起落落，晚年的卓别林变得豁达而通透，于70岁生日时写下了《当我开始真正爱自己（As I Began to Love Myself)》。
As I Began to Love Myself
当我真正开始爱自己
As I began to love myself I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth. Today, I know, this is AUTHENTICITY.
当我真正开始爱自己，我才意识到，所有的痛苦和情感的折磨，仅仅是在提醒，我的生活背离了真实的自己。今日，我明白，这叫做「真实」。
As I began to love myself I understood how much it can offend somebody as I try to force my desires on this person, even though I knew the time was not right and the person was not ready for it, and even though this person was me. Today I call it RESPECT.
当我真正开始爱自己，我才懂得，当我将自己的意愿强加于人时，是多么的冒犯无礼，即使那时我知晓时机尚未成熟，那个人也并未做好准备，即便那个人就是我自己。今日我明白这叫做「尊重」。
As I began to love myself I stopped craving for a different life, and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to grow. Today I call it MATURITY.
当我开始真正爱自己，我不再苛求不一样的人生，我明白任何发生在我身边的事，都是对我成长的邀约。而今，我称之为「成熟」。
As I began to love myself I understood that at any circumstance, I am in the right place at the right time, and everything happens at the exactly right moment, so I could be calm. Today I call it SELF-CONFIDENCE.
当我开始真正爱自己，我才明白在任何情况下，我其实一直处于恰好的时机、恰好的地方，而每件事的发生也都恰如其分。由此，我得以平静。今日，我称其为「自信」。
As I began to love myself I quit stealing my own time, and I stopped designing huge projects for the future. Today, I only do what brings me joy and happiness, things I love to do and that make my heart cheer, and I do them in my own way and in my own rhythm. Today I call it SIMPLICITY.
当我开始真正爱自己，我不再挥霍自己生命和时间，不再去擘画波澜壮阔的未来。今天的我，只做能为我带来喜悦和幸福的事，做那些我所热爱，且能鼓舞我心的事情，用我特有的方式，按照我自己的节奏。今日我知晓这叫做「简单」。
As I began to love myself I freed myself of anything that is no good for my health – food, people, things, situations, and everything that drew me down and away from myself. At first I called this attitude a healthy egoism. Today I know it is LOVE OF ONESELF.
当我开始真正爱自己，我开始远离所有不健康的东西，不论是饮食、人物、事情亦或环境，远离拖累我、让我背离了真实自我的一切。从前的我称呼这为“有益健康的利己主义”。今天我知道，这其实是「自爱」。
As I began to love myself I quit trying to always be right, and ever since I was wrong less of the time. Today I discovered that is MODESTY.
当我开始真正爱自己，我不再总想做到永远正确，从那时起，我犯错的时候反而更少了。现在我发现那就是「谦逊」。
As I began to love myself I refused to go on living in the past and worry about the future. Now, I only live for the moment, where EVERYTHING is happening. Today I live each day, day by day, and I call it FULFILLMENT.
当我开始真正爱自己，我不再继续沉溺于过去，也不再为明天而忧虑。如今，我只活在这一切正在发生的当下。今天，我活在此时此地，如此日复一日，而我称这为「圆满」。
As I began to love myself I recognized that my mind can disturb me and it can make me sick. But As I connected it to my heart, my mind became a valuable ally. Today I call this connection WISDOM OF THE HEART.
当我真正开始爱自己，我明白，我的思虑扰乱了自我，使我变得了无生趣。但当我与本心相连，心灵的力量就成为了我坚实的后盾。今日我称这种连结为「心灵的智慧」。
We no longer need to fear arguments, confrontations or any kind of problems with ourselves or others. Even stars collide, and out of their crashing new worlds are born. Today I know THAT IS LIFE!
我们无需再害怕生命中的争论、冲突，或是任何出现在与我们自己或与其他人之间的问题。因为即使是星星也会有碰撞在一起的时候，而从它们的撞击中，新的世界将会诞生。今天我知道，这，就是「生命」！
