I assume that everybody has had or is having anxiety and nobody likes it. Then, what is the solution? How to get rid of anxiety and find peace in heart?
Firstly, ask yourself why you are anxious.
Anxiety is out of fear, fear to lose control. We will get anxious when we realize that something is out of our control. We are worried because something/somebody might not go according to our will. We have the fear that we can’t handle the situation or circumstance. We feel that we are like the lamb to be slaughtered and we can’t do anything to take it under our own control, although we try every effort to do so. The fear and a sense of insecurity swallow us so much that we can’t even eat and sleep well. What’s worse, we might get moody, aggressive and irritable. Normal life could be completely paralyzed with extreme anxiety.
Sometimes we know it clearly in our head that worry itself doesn’t help to solve the problem at all. But we can’t get away from worrying by telling ourselves not to worry. On the contrary, it could make us become even more anxious.
Secondly, face the reality that you can’t take control at all.
No matter how smart or strong you are, there is always something out of your control, because you are human, not God. For example, although you are a prestigious professor in Harvard University, you can’t make sure that your son will get a PhD degree; although you eat very healthy and work out routinely, it doesn’t mean you won’t get sick. You are not God, and of course you can’t control everything. This is the reality. Face it and accept it.
Thirdly, face it with faith that everything is going to be fine.
Although you can’t control it, the creator can. This world was created to be of more precision and order than chaos and disorder. No chaotic situation, if any, can last long. It is less likely that something devastating will happen. If it is destined to happen, nothing you could do to save this world, let alone your worry.
In most occasions, you worry more because you don’t know what is going to happen than because you know something bad is going to happen. Although bad things may happen sometimes but it won’t be too bad to be bearable. As a matter of fact, we usually grow up faster under adverse situations. Misfortune might be a blessing in disguise. In this sense, it is difficult to say adverse situation is all bad. Even bad situation has a golden edge if we look at it towards the sun.
Last but not the least, be open-minded.
Do everything possible you believe is right and be prepared to embrace any surprise life might give you. This is actually the most interesting part of our life. We are not in control of anything and so we don’t know what is going to happen next minute. It makes our life an adventurous journey. What we need to do is to take the journey, enjoy it with all our passion. If life is a play, won’t it be boring if we can control everything and know the ending already? If so, why do we bother to play the game?
