逃避恐惧的方法形形色色,常见的一种是心理认同,例如认同国家,认同社会,认同观念。当你看到行进中的队列,比如士兵或僧侣队列,或者当国家陷入被侵略的危险时,你有没有注意到自己的反应?此时,你将自己认同于国家,认同于某个人,认同于某理念体系。还有的时候,你认同于自己的孩子、妻子,认同于某种有为,或无为。
认同,是一种忘我。只要一想到“自我”,我就会有痛苦、挣扎与持久的恐惧。但如果将自己认同于一个更伟大的事物,认同于有价值的东西,认同美,认同生命,认同真理,认同信仰,认同知识,哪怕暂时地认同,那么我就能逃避“自我”,是不是?当我高谈“我的国”时,我就暂时忘却了自己,是不是?如果我阔论上帝,也能忘却自己。如果我能认同家庭、群体、政党、意识形态,那也能获得暂时的逃避。
恐惧是什么?现在明白了吧?恐惧,不就是不接纳真相吗?我们必须理解“接纳”这个词,我使用该词,不指刻意着力地接受真相。当我真正觉察到事情的真相,就不存在接纳问题;只有我未看清真相,才会产生接纳的问题。所以,恐惧,就是抗拒真相。
——克里希那穆提《生命书:365观心日课》(The Book of Life: Daily Meditations with Krishnamurti)
Fear Is Nonacceptance of What Is
Fear finds various escapes. The common variety is identification, is it not?—identification with country, with society, with an idea. Haven’t you noticed how you respond when you see a procession, a military procession or a religious procession, or when the country is in danger of being invaded? You then identify yourself with the country, with a being, with an ideology. There are other times when you identify yourself with your child, with your wife, with a particular form of action, or inaction.
Identification is a process of self-forgetfulness. So long as I am conscious of the “me” I know there is pain, there is struggle, there is constant fear. But if I can identify myself with something greater, with something worthwhile, with beauty, with life, with truth, with belief, with knowledge, at least temporarily, there is an escape from the “me,” is there not? If I talk about “my country” I forget myself temporarily, do I not? If I can say something about God, I forget myself. If I can identify myself with my family, with a group, with a particular party, with a certain ideology, then there is a temporary escape.
Do we now know what fear is? Is it not the non-acceptance of what is? We must understand the word acceptance. I am not using that word as meaning the effort made to accept. There is no question of accepting when I perceive what is. When I do not see clearly what is, then I bring in the process of acceptance. Therefore, fear is the nonacceptance of what is.
MARCH 28