Chapter 7 Raising Resilient Kids
Words
1.knack
Tim's dad had a knack for reframing paiful events.
释义：[singular] a natural skill or ability ⇨ talent
搭配：knack for doing something
例：Some people seem to have a knack for making money
造句：He has a knack for getting people to do something for him willingly.
2. take on
When parents treat failure as an opportunity to learn rather than an embarrassment to be avoided, kids are more likely to take on changes.
释义：If you take on a job or responsibility, especially a difficult one, you accept it. 承担，接受(尤指艰巨工作或重大责任)
例：Don’t take on too much work – the extra cash isn’t worth it.
造句：Once you are in this position, you should take on the responsibility.
3.channel
释义： to control and direct something such as money or energy towards a particular purpose
搭配:channel something into something
例：Most of his energy was channeled into writing and lecturing
造句：The company has channelled £1.2 million into developing new products.
4.marshal
Sleep matters even more in adversity because we need to marshal all our strength.
释义to organize all the people or things that you need in order to be ready for a battle, election etc:
例：The general marshalled his forces for a major offensive
造句： As taking the college-entrance exams, we should marshal all our strength.
5.wrestle with
As I wrestled with my own emotions, I worried about how much of my grief to my children.
释义：to try to deal with or solve a difficult problem
例：He has had to wrestle with accusations of corruption
造句：Our neighbors are wrestling with the noise that came from the dancing crowd of the aged women.
其他：
near-death experiences ： a close call
knowing-doing gap形容只会说不做，我们知道的太多，可是实践的太少。眼高手低
Summary
Thoughts
今天提到培养孩子resilience的一个方法就是从失败中学习。其实也就是要培养孩子的growth mindset，而不是fixed mindset。这是Mindset一书中的经典理论。文中对这两种思维用一个例子进行了解释，比如一个孩子考试取得了好成绩，如果是培养growth mindset应该对孩子说：“I'm glad you tried your hardest”！而如果是fixed mindset则只会说“great job” Dr 魏在得到专栏里也介绍过这种培养孩子思维的方法，比如孩子做成功了一件事，家长通常会说：“你真聪明！”这其实是在告诉孩子，你做成功这件事是因为你聪明，这是天生的。但如果你说“我很开心你非常努力”这样所则是告诉他你是靠自己的努力得到这个成绩的。以后孩子碰到困难就不会认为因为我没天分所以不可能完成，而是会尽全力做到最好。
